"Do not be afraid; I am the first and the last, and the living one. I was dead, and see, I am alive forever and ever; and I have the keys of Death and of Hades. Now write what you have seen, what is, and what is to take place after this." Rev. 1:17-19.

Saturday, December 21, 2013

Letting Joseph out of the Corner

Advent IV



The Collect
Purify our conscience, Almighty God, by your daily visitation, that your Son Jesus Christ, at his coming, may find in us a mansion prepared for himself; who lives and reigns with you, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.


            We usually think of Mary’s story when we talk at Christmastime about faithfulness and obedience to God. We imagine the courage and deep faith that it must have required for Mary to bow her head at the Annunciation and say to God, “let it be with me according to your will.” We have centuries of Christian art to portray her reward, as we see her holding the radiant baby close to her breast, as creation bows down before her. Joseph doesn’t usually occupy our Christian imaginations in the same way, except in Matthew’s Gospel that we read today. Only Matthew makes Joseph’s faith and obedience the doorway to the Incarnation, and we would do well to join him and to consider Joseph carefully today.
          My own sympathy for Joseph has grown ever since I saw him portrayed in a marvelous fresco in the crypt of Basel Cathedral, in Switzerland. In this tiny painting from the Middle Ages, the Holy Family is seated underneath the rickety shelter of the stable. In the center of the scene, swathed in long blue robes and crowned with a huge halo, Mary is holding the baby Jesus, and although she is gazing with some trepidation into his sleepy baby-eyes, she is clearly the center of the painting. Beside her, a cute donkey and a cow are smiling and contentedly munching on something green in the manger. Way out to the left, our eyes finally fall upon Joseph, a forlorn caricature of every expectant father’s worst nightmare. Head on one hand, elbow to knee, he is staring down mournfully at the floor, clearly pouting at his lack of a role in this drama and obviously worried about what the future will bring. Imagine the mocking words of the chorus from W. H. Auden’s Christmas Oratorio swirling around in his head:
“Joseph, you have heard/ What Mary says occurred;/ Yes, it may be so. Is it likely? No. …Mary may be pure,/ But Joseph, are you sure?/ How is one to tell?/ …Maybe, maybe not./ But Joseph, you know what/ Your world, of course will say/ About you anyway.”

          Or perhaps you have heard the Appalachian “Cherry Tree Carol?” It is a wonderful ballad that tells the story of Mary and Joseph walking along one day during Mary’s pregnancy and finding a cherry tree full of fruit. Mary, in typical high-maintenance, pregnant-wife fashion, asks Joseph to climb up into the tree and to pick some cherries for her, since she is craving them. That was the last straw for Joseph, who, as the carol says, “flew in angry,/ In angry he flew:/ [Crying] ‘Let the father of the baby/ Gather cherries for you.’” All of a sudden, Jesus’ voice comes down from heaven and the cherry tree actually bows down to the ground, so that Mary can pick her own cherries, (quote)“while Joseph stood around.”
Poor Joseph. He must feel superfluous, mocked, confused. Matthew describes him as a “righteous man.” In Judaism, to be “righteous” was to live a life of right relationship with God and with other people. It meant living with integrity, caring for others, following God’s teaching, obeying the Torah. Job is called the most righteous man in the Old Testament, and that is why Satan wanted to tempt him, to see if his integrity and obedience to God could stand the test of unmerited suffering. Joseph might have felt like Job, as he was placed in the position of either having to believe a wild tale concerning the purity of his future wife or having to accuse her of adultery, a charge for which Scripture prescribed stoning. Wouldn’t a righteous man like Joseph choose to follow the Law, separating himself and his family from scandal, upholding God’s decrees, doing what the Scriptures said to do? Luckily for us, Joseph does not do the expected thing. He does not follow the Law and quietly set aside his betrothed; he does not listen to Scripture and have her and her unborn child stoned to death. He listens instead to a dream, to the strange whisperings of the Holy Spirit, and he adopts this mysterious baby.
We need to remember that the writer of Matthew’s Gospel is interested in Joseph because of Matthew’s desire to show his community of Jewish Christians that Jesus is a true successor to the likes of Moses, Joshua, and King David. Joseph’s acceptance of the baby is the way to bring him into the line of David and thereby refigure Salvation History. Our lectionary skips over the first 17 verses of Matthew’s Gospel, in which the Evangelist carefully places Jesus into the history of Joseph’s people, the history that becomes Jesus’ own through adoption. What is interesting in this long list of “begats,” is that, interspersed with the generations of fathers and sons, beginning with Abraham, four women are included. And who are these women? The great Matriarchs of Israel, virtuous women like Sarah, Rebekah, and Rachel? No, indeed! Instead, Matthew gives us Tamar, the Canaanite daughter-in-law of Judah who dresses like a prostitute in order to trick her father-in-law into getting her pregnant; it includes Ruth, the Moabite foreigner, who has to seduce her kinsman Boaz so that he will redeem her and Naomi from the poverty of widowhood; it even includes the infamous Bathsheba, the wife of poor Uriah the Hittite, whom David has killed in order to cover up his adultery with Bathsheba; and it ends with Mary, the Mother of Jesus, whose fiancĂ© Joseph must decide whether to reject her or to adopt her son. Do you see a pattern here? Foreigners, sinful women, people who break the rules, people whom we would least expect God to choose as examples of faith: from this lineage God brings his Son, our Savior, into the world.
When I first read about these verses, I thought that I had figured out God’s little trick.  “Sure, I know,” I thought to myself, “God works through all kinds of us sinners. God asks us to do all kinds of crazy, risky things. I can deal with God coming to me and asking me to do what I least expect. God does that all the time anyway, right?  I can almost understand Mary’s capitulation before the majestic angel Gabriel. Trust in our upside-down God, that’s what we’re supposed to do.
But there is more. When Mary is asked to trust in God, she puts herself at terrible risk of rejection, but she is not asked to trust any human being but herself. Joseph, however, must trust both God and Mary. I would have trouble if I were Joseph, asked to overlook the possible betrayal by a loved one, asked to withhold judging someone else’s revelation. Growing up, I was taught that people show their righteousness by living by the rules, by doing what church and society expect of us. I don’t find fuzzy lines helpful, and I definitely have a tendency to choose the “rules” over what somebody else claims that God has revealed to them. I’m not even sure that I would have trusted my dream like Joseph did. I might have felt as if I needed to hold the hard line against any possible wishful thinking, against any slipping of standards, against any chance of misunderstanding God and losing my precious righteousness. Righteousness is a hard-won treasure, easily tarnished by shame and guilt. It takes a lot of wall-building to keep it safe. Yes, it’s a good thing that I wasn’t Joseph, for look what we would have missed.
These days, as “rules” seem to get slipperier, it seems to me as if it is getting harder and harder to get a “yes” out of us Christian Josephs. Especially when holding the hard line has to do with sex. In a recent article on the “Duck Dynasty” fiasco, the author made an interesting point. For the fundamentalist, he wrote, “all sin—when it comes down to it—starts with sex. This sexual obsession, as the Pope has rightly diagnosed it, is a mark of neurotic fundamentalism in Islam and Judaism as well as Christianity.”[1] Even for those of us who are not fundamentalists, when we think of sin, our minds go straight to sexual sins, don’t they? Adultery is much more interesting than greed or pride or the failure to love one’s neighbor, right?
For Matthew, however, that was clearly not the case, as we see in this list of scurrilous men and women who are the forebears of our Lord. We tend to be like Thomas, our namesake, whose feast day we celebrate today. We want our truths to come in neat packages and with clear checklists. We want to see and understand before we can trust. We feel that it is better to know than to love. But today’s Gospel asks us to be like Joseph, unafraid to bind ourselves to what we do not know, more concerned with Love than sex. As the holidays approach and we are given choices, difficult choices, about how to deal with complicated relationships in our families, choices about where to give and when to save, choices about when to trust and when to condemn, can we trust God enough to replace a rule with forgiveness? To replace a grudge with grace? To open our arms in Love, even if it means risking ridicule or suffering or even the taint of sin? Perhaps poor Joseph is pouting in the corner of the stable not over his lack of a role in God’s story but in ours?  

The Cherry Tree Carol
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DYaFGSG_x80


[1] http://dish.andrewsullivan.com/2013/12/19/ae-cannot-bear-very-much-reality/

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